She was the oldest of three girls. As she hit her pre-teens, she was sexually abused by her father. The abuse continued well into her teen years. She wanted to stop the abuse, but was afraid if she did, her father would abuse her younger siblings. The hardest part for me to hear was that her father was an active deacon in the church, and her mother was aware of what was happening and did nothing to stop it. Continue reading “Why the Church Needs to Be Transparent about Sexual Abuse”
A few weeks ago I attended the church of a friend. I did not tell her I was coming and as I arrived I entered the nearest door to where I parked. A man greeted me at the door and I entered a large open area, that was virtually empty. I was not sure where to go, until I saw a young couple entering through double doors ahead. As I followed, I looked around me. The room was smaller in size, seating about a hundred, the walls were painted black, and the lighting looked like a theater. There was a slick, themed background for the praise band. There was a multitude of open seats and I quickly found one. Continue reading “Sing Praise”
As a women’s ministry leader I have been reminded over and over again that people want true authenticity from their leaders. However, in reality, that is much easier said than done. While many women are social and friendships are important to them, it is rare to have those true “safe haven” friendships. You know the ones—the ones where you can truly be yourself, with all your flaws, all your doubts, all your hurts and all your disappointments. Those friendships are few and far in between.
I consider myself extremely blessed because last weekend I was able to spend time with two of my safe haven friends. They are women I trust implicitly with my secrets, my hurts, and my dreams. They don’t judge me. Continue reading “Safe Haven Friendships”
Growing up, I was always aware of the “four-letter” words that I should never say. And for the most part, I didn’t. In high school, I let the occasional word fly just because some of my friends did. As a Christian I became convicted that curse words really did not belong in my vocabulary. However, I have learned through time that there are some four letter words other than curse words that can ruin our lives. Here is a list of four letter words that can have a negative impact on our lives. Continue reading “Four Letter Words that Ruin Our Lives”
Sometimes being an ordinary person really stinks! Most of my friends and family fall in the “ordinary” (however you want to define it) category. During this week I have friends who have had health issues, marital issues, financial issues, and even dealing with suicide issues. Unfortunately, life is bound to throw us all a curve ball on occasion. Sometimes we are a primary contributor to the issues, and sometimes we are are impacted by the decisions someone else has made. In all honesty, life really isn’t fair. Continue reading “Life Really Isn’t Fair – 5 ways to become a victor”
Two of the most recent events that have headlined the news for the past two weeks are the disappearance of Flight MH370 and the massive mudslide near Oso, Washington. Both of them are events that have left uncertainty, grief, and frustration for many. And once again, we are reminded of how fleeting our days can be.
When catastrophic events such as this happen, we are often forced to take a look at our own mortality. A life that is here today can be snuffed out quickly. I know this to be true. When my husband came home from work on October 27, 2009, he followed his regular evening routine as he went to the basement to lift weights. He never came back up those stairs, and met Jesus as his soul took flight from this earthly home. Continue reading “Focus on Five – Things to do to minimize regrets”
Today I am finally taking the plunge and setting up my very own blog page. In all honesty, I have debated long and hard about doing this. After all, I am a very ordinary person. There is nothing particular that distinguishes me from millions of other people. And, if we are being frank, I can be pretty boring on occasion. So why write a blog? What do I have to say that has not already been said in a myriad of different ways? Nothing. Zip. De Nada.
But somewhere deep inside of me I have this compelling urge to write and share from my heart. I am a very ordinary person, but I am inextricably, irrationally in love with an extraordinary God. And that is the crux of it all. I love watching God moving and working in the lives of ordinary, every day people like me. He never fails to amaze me and even though I know He is capable of extraordinary things, each time I see Him in action, it is brand new and awe-inspiring.